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STOP SHRINKING, START DOMINATING: 5 Science-Backed Hacks to Ditch Apologies & Own Your Power (Your haters will hate this...)
Take control of your power with 5 science-backed strategies to stop apologizing and boost confidence. Learn how to own your energy and unlock career-changing potential.

Read time: 2 minutes
You weren’t made to whisper. Yet every time you say “Sorry, just my opinion…” or “I don’t want to be too much…” you’re handing over your power like a coupon. Science confirms: People who apologize for their energy lose 42% more career opportunities (Harvard study).
Brutal? Yes. Fixable? Hell yes.
Here’s Your Glow-Up Cheat Sheet
(Read this. Save it. Screenshot it. Do NOT die mediocre.)
1. STOP SAYING "SORRY" (FOR NO REASON)
Your brain listens to what you say, so choose your words wisely. UCLA research show women apologize way more than men, even when they've done nothing wrong. Swap "Sorry I'm late" for "Thanks for waiting" and watch how differently people respond.
2. STAND LIKE YOU OWN THE ROOM
Posture changes everything. Shoulders back, chin up; just two minutes of this can boost confidence hormones (according to a 2023 Stanford study). Walk into a room like you belong there, not like you're asking permission.
3. SPEAK UP BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE TAKES YOUR SPOT
The quietest voice rarely gets promoted. Data proves teams led by bold communicators hit goals 65% faster. Say the thing everyone's thinking. Pitch the wild idea. And remember, silence can be just as powerful as words.
4. STOP SEEKING PERMISSION TO BE YOURSELF
People can sense when you're holding back. Psychology shows authenticity attracts 4x more allies. Let the right ones love you, and let the rest figure it out.
5. STOP MAKING YOURSELF SMALL SO OTHERS FEEL BIG
"Too much" just means "You scare small-minded people." Post your real and honest opinion. Wear what makes you feel unstoppable. Charge what you're worth. While they're whispering, you'll already be moving forward.
THE COST OF PLAYING SMALL? YOU PAY IT EVERY DAY.
Opportunities? They go to the person who speaks up.
Confidence? Self-doubt pays nothing; drop the job.
Joy? You weren't meant to stay stuck. Time to go.
Ready to Glow Nuclear?
STEP 1: Subscribe for weekly power plays (free).
STEP 2: Follow Glenda Carnate for daily unapologetic fire.
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STEP 3: Send this to 3 women who need to hear: “Your ‘too much’ is their not enough.”
STEP 4: Comment below with one thing you refuse to apologize for anymore.
P.S. If this made you sweat, good. The best versions of you are clawing to get out. Let her.
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