Choosing Yourself Has a Hidden Cost Nobody Warns You About

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Ways to determine if your self-selection is a sign of progress:

1. If it costs you your convenience, it's likely to be the truth. Whenever you are comfortable, you are usually not making any changes.
Move: Stop using your comfort as a validation that you are doing the right thing.

2. If it costs you your relationships, it is an indicator of your authenticity. Some people can be friends only when you keep yourself small.
Move: Allow the misalignment of the relationship to exit in a positive manner.

3. If it gets quiet, don't think of it as punishment. You create noise; you stop giving it food, and it is now quiet.
Move: Recognize the quiet as space versus rejection.

4. If your choices feel heavier, you are now responsible for the decisions about your life. Clarity is in the sense of being responsible versus being relieved.
Move: Don't make the mistake of thinking that a difficult decision is wrong.

5. If it gave you a sense of direction, then it was successful for you. Most people will trade their direction for the approval of someone else.
Move: Treat it as a precious resource.

💡Key Takeaway: 

Initially, selecting yourself may feel like losing, not winning. However, the silence that follows isn't an absence of sound, but rather the presence of a lifetime of living from the inside out.