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6 Unspoken Truths About the “Love vs. Career” Tradeoff (It’s Not Actually a Tradeoff)
Is it really love vs. career... or just a smarter excuse?

Read time: 2.5 minutes
If you’ve ever said, “I’ll focus on love once my career settles,” this is the change you didn’t know you needed.
You are burning the midnight oil to hit your next milestone. You get a message asking if you’re good for tomorrow. You hesitate because you are comfortable with your job but unsure about someone else.
Right now, you tell yourself that this is about timing and priorities but deep in your gut, it is about control versus vulnerability. Your career provides you with rewards for your efforts straight. Your love asks for you to show up with no assurances.
6 Unspoken Facts About the "Love vs. Career" Dilemma
1. "Love vs. Career" is not a true dichotomy; rather, it is a matter of control versus vulnerability.
There are quantifiable metrics for work performance, whereas dating and relationships do not have such metrics.
How to manage: Instead of making the next work-related flex event, take an emotional leap of faith (i.e., take an emotional risk) at least once a week.
2. You Have Enough Time; You Are Just Overworking Yourself.
You work relentlessly to meet a project deadline, yet phone your date to cancel.
How to manage: Make at least one of your nights this week work function and occupy it as if it were a company board meeting.
3. You Are Romanticizing What You Are Avoiding.
When you work extremely long hours, you may think the opposite of your work, building great relationships, will be much easier.
You are wrong because building a relationship is no easier than your current work task.
How to manage: Stop daydreaming and start investing.
4. "Being Busy" is Your Current Excuse.
When you say you are "focused on my career," you often mean "I am avoiding rejection."
How to manage: Eliminate yourself from at least 1 hour of scrolling or repolishing an already completed product to go build a real-world connection.
5. There is No Right Timeline.
Being engaged by X or being promoted by Y are examples of social programming, not destiny.
How to manage: Set your goals for the next 12 months without comparison.
6. You Are Afraid You Will Not Be Successful in Both.
That fear is what limits your success.
How to manage: Make One Career Move + One Relationship Move Every Week as your greatest form of “Repetitions”.
💡Key Takeaway:
Pursuing personal ambition and maintaining close personal relationships don’t have to be mutually exclusive. The main question facing you is how much fear determines your choices between safety and risk.
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